Why people get Divorce

Abuse:
Some weddings aren’t fortunate enough meeting blissful life. Some marriages are cursed with physical abuse, mental abuse, and domestic violence, when there’s no way left for the couple to be in balance, these abuses end up their relationship. Any kind of abuse is a valid reason for divorce.

Physical Appearance:
Before or after marriage physical appearances might change. After marriage, these changes can bother sometimes.
Weight gain and weight loss also affect the couple in their later year of the wedding. This issue can be with both, man and woman.
After pregnancy woman’s body rolls through several changes. Her body loses tone, hair fall, tiredness, body pain, weight gain, weight loss, etc. make her less attractive for her spouse. And some monks feel less interested in their partner and divorce strangely.

Addiction:
Gamble addiction, drug addiction, alcohol addiction is destructive at all ages. After marriage, it ruins not only the person but also affects the whole family. Life partners and children are mostly affected by these addictions.
It brings disrespect, social humiliation, poor health, and makes the person loanee, senseless, and aggressive.
Any kind of addiction poison the relationship. This is a valid reason for divorce.

Premature marriage:
People who get married at an early age couldn’t deal with the different challenges, experiences, and upcoming life exposures. Getting Married at a young age when the person is not mature, balance, and financially stable could give you an unsuccessful marriage.

Aggressive partner:
People develop aggression for some specific reasons. Some are aggressive from birth while others are inheritors. Aggression can give rise to so many problems but if it becomes the cause of relation destruction, one should worry about this. Act aggressively in day to day life is not a sign of a healthy relationship. One should take this seriously in time and make an effort to cure this habit to save his/her marriage.

Less income or financial matters:
Less income is also a leading cause for people getting a divorce. If the necessities are not meeting their completion, problems take birth and turn worse by time. The definition of necessities is also different for all. Some want their primary needs to be fulfilled while others find all their luxuries necessary.
Financial background can also vary in few cases as it is considered a status symbol. If one out of the couple doesn’t relate compatible financial background, other starts humiliate, don’t respect, and make fun of the partner.
In some cases, if partner expenses so much that it makes himself/herself indebted without informing the other one, this can also result in argument and in divorce respectively.

Educational differences:
Educational differences also matter in this context as it affects decision making, mentality, social behaviors, and lifestyle. It gives equality to both equal respect, equal love, equal status, and equal responsibility. When a relation lies between quality, there are rare chances for a dispute to happen.

Former love affairs:
Past ruins present as well as the future sometimes. History of some affair continues as friendship even after marriage also but the other partner doesn’t accept this so-called friendship cum affair. So, the cheated partner chooses self-esteem overtaken for granted life.

Going out with someone else:
Lack of communication, lack of interest in sex, lack of understanding is some of the reasons which are considered the root of going out with someone else. Having relation differences give origin to make relation other than the wedding partner.
While other times divorce takes place because of some outside affairs. People get in affairs in the workplace sooner or later after spending much time outside with someone else.
In foreign countries having affair outside is the most common cause of divorce.

Lack of communication:
Lack of communication between the couple is said to be the beginning of all the differences. Once they stop talking to each other, it has been followed by ignoring, taking for granted, and becomes more likely to hide and seek. Gradually the experience no feeling in this marriage so this results in divorce.

Personality differences:
Personality differences also affect one another. Sometimes the two are so different that they never get on something matching. In the starting, they try hard to change themselves and match their partner but if they couldn’t and condition goes out of tolerance zone because of this mismatch personality, they choose to get over.

Unsettled Family Feud:
The family has always been a priority to everyone as its no doubt an important part of life. No one wishes for a situation in which you will have to choose between family and soulmate but sometimes you have to put yourself in such a situation because of some family disputes.
Family feud rose in the past ruin the present and future of the couple. In love marriages, disputes can be because of disliking of half mate, if they didn’t approve their wedding.
In arrange marriages conflicts can be for several reasons as the families and couple didn’t know each other the way they could. So family feuds can also make the divorce happen in some conditions in which people choose their family rather than their partner.

Interference in-between:
If the couple is lacking with understanding and suffering with less communication, other family members, relatives, and friends take advantage of this sometimes and create complications between them.
A couple doesn’t discuss problems lies between them, and this proves benefitted for conspirators who do this to split them away for their self-benefits. These benefit issues can be such as property, jealousy, some personal ego, selfishness, and so on.

Jealousy:
Jealousy feeds on educational differences, financial status differences, and family differences and reputations of the couple. When these all get over love and sacrifices, the distance between them flourishes in the form of jealousy. At last, it becomes so formidable that it’s enough to break them away.

Abstinence:
Abstinence grows up with prolonged complications between the couple. Relation suffering from problems thrives distance which makes them less interested in sex and physical bonding, and soon sex between them comes to a deadly end. Less interest in sex can be the outcome of some domestic violence, humiliation, disrespect, etc.

Valid reasons for divorce:
There can also be some valid reasons for divorce such as mental or physical abuse, drug or alcohol addiction, and outside affairs or cheating cases.

Couples Can Escape Divorce

Accept your spouse the way he/she is:
You should accept your partner the way he/she exists not the way you want him/her to be, even Homer nods after all. When people fall in love, they change themselves and their personality as well but you cannot force someone to be someone other. Let him/her live the way he/she loves to.

Don’t keep secrets:
A couple should never seal their lips to one another. Spilling the bean strengthens the relation. Be an open book and don’t make your life a room full of darkness. Sharing daily and occasionally issues bring you both closer.

Spend some quality time together:
If you have gone through some argument, conflict, or hard time, don’t ignore this. Try to get over these hard times by spending some quality time together. Both of you would feel better.

Make some time for each other:
No matter how busy your life is, for a healthy and happy marriage life spending time with each other is very important. Talk over different issues between you and leave any conflict unresolved.

Resolve issues between you:
Notice the points or issues which arouse the argument between you and try to unfurl them. Make effort on each other and don’t give up on your marriage.

Remember lovely memories of togetherness:
When you get frustrated which is very normal with marriage life because of several life exposures, remind yourself and your partner good times you spent and memories full of love you had. This practice will help you move out of a difficult time of life.

Be wider and broader:
Extend your perception towards life experiences. All relations got some issues. All you need to do is, ‘don’t stick on some point’. If your partner has made some mistake, be wider and broader to understand his/her situation and close to him/her not far.

Don’t stick on divorce:
When the couple confronts relation complications they talk about getting a divorce. Problems happen in all relations, some learn to deal with this and others not. But never get a stick on this divorce talk every time. This will make your relationship worse. Be positive for your partner and your relationship as well.

Counseling:
If you are thinking to give up on marriage or its not working out for you both, you should visit a marriage counselor. The marriage counselor would tell you the disadvantage of divorce.

The disadvantage of divorce:

Divorce impacts the toddlers psychologically and teenager negatively. Splitting away breaks the routine of life for couples and children effectively. Question of upbringing and custody of grownups arouse. Financial issues, children’s upbringing, psychological effects, again star counting with zero life are some major disadvantages of divorce.

The Advantage of divorce:

If the divorce has been taken due to some valid reasons as abuses, addiction, and cheating then you get relieved after it. Marriages, not all the time are blissful sometimes they are not fortunate enough to make their spouse or marriage life in shape.
After this kind of divorce, people get mental peace for a lifetime.

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